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You could say I'm a perfectionist...

No one's perfect—and that's ok. We've got 5 tips on overcoming perfectionism.
Dan Murray-Serter
October 09, 2019
3 min read

Tough as it is to admit it, that thing you say as a fake “flaw” in job interviews - is actually a proper, legitimate issue. And it is slowly going to drive you nuts. Whether it gets you the job or not. 

Defined by UCL’s Roz Shafran in her book Overcoming Perfection as; 

“The setting of, and striving to meet very demanding standards that are self-imposed and relentlessly pursued despite this causing problems. It involves basing your self-worth almost exclusively on how well these high standards are pursued and achieved."

Sound familiar?

Perfection is the pursuit of more. It’s achievement without satisfaction, races with no finish lines, the constant search for bigger, better, and brighter. An expectation you set for yourself that you’d never expect of anyone else in your life.

Pursuit of perfection = fear Pursuit of perfection

When you live in fear of making a mistake, you’re putting yourself through a load of stress, which in turn means you don’t make the best decisions and it puts your body through a helluva time too. You’re also putting yourself at risk of burnout, guilt and exhaustion. 

So we can all agree that perfectionist tendencies are best avoided. But, when it’s something that can be so ingrained in your personality - how do you retrain your brain to let it go?


1- Believe you’re enough

Your mindset is made up of your views on life. So building a mindset from beliefs based in fantasy is always going to be hard to create. Try to change your mindset to reflect realistic expectations, that you are more than good enough to be a part of. 

2- Laters, haters

Giving yourself a hard time isn’t going to help anything. So have a think about the standard you are holding yourself to, and if you’d do that to anyone else. Telling yourself that you're never going to achieve something will make sure you never achieve it.

**that was a bit good wasn’t it? Maybe I should create a motivational meme… anyone here creative enough to make one for me?

3- Make your own damn decisions

We wrote a whole blog on how to make a decision. Well, it helps with those perfectionist tendencies too. Making decisions for yourself is a good way to prove that you can trust you. There’s really no need to always get everyone else’s opinion, you know what you want to do - go for it. 

4- Appreciate now 

Accepting where you are right now is a great way to stop fixating on where you need to be. So take a minute to appreciate and acknowledge where you are, and how far you’ve come. Another great way to do this, is to practise gratitude.

5- Focus on progress

Recognising how far you’ve come, and acknowledging each step as you take it helps you take gain confidence and improves your self-worth. Knowing that every stage is just as important as another, will help you to give up the need to strive for perfection.

For another way to focus your thoughts, try our easy tips on starting meditation.

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