An easy guide on how to start meditating
As a meditation teacher, one of my biggest challenges is convincing people that practices which appear as though nothing is really happening, actually works wonders.
Meta study analyses have attested to the effect meditation has on both your nervous system and – just as excitingly – in your brain, from the regulation of stress response to thickening your grey matter in the areas of attention and emotion regulation.
But, these benefits can still be considered a waste of time spent crossed-legged on a cushion if you can’t see tangible results in your everyday life, and a change in behaviour.
Meditation is a tool for mastering oneself
My passion for sharing the practice comes from the realisation that meditation is a tool for mastering oneself. These days, we tend to know more about cars, fashion and business than we know about what's going on in our own minds.
Mindfulness is the school that teaches us how to observe our thoughts, feelings and emotions, leading to greater awareness of our internal states and a deeper understanding of ourselves.
Train your attention
Meditation is not simply a relaxation tool to help you sleep, but something that trains your attention and keeps you alert and awake. It supports you in moving from auto-pilot to hyper-awareness, and from impulsive reactions to considered responsiveness.
A cluttered mind leaves little room for creative thinking, therefore we must use techniques to develop a healthier relationship with our thoughts and in turn enhance our ability to make wise decisions.
Meditation is the pause we take that gives us perspective and power.
We can all greatly benefit from developing a greater connection with ourselves. Subsequently, the people around us will benefit from being around someone who is calm, cool and collected.
Here’s how to get started
As the grandfather of The Mindfulness Movement, Jon Kabat-Zinn says that “becoming a little bit more present and a little less judgmental is the hardest thing to do. It requires discipline and it’s a lifetime commitment.” And so, I won’t fool you into thinking there are any magical or mystical shortcuts, but recommend that you start by easing yourself in.
Start by setting a strong motivation to meditate. Maybe you wish to reduce stress, increase kindness or simply be more present. The simple act of setting an intention is a meditation in itself, as you are creating or reinforcing a mental habit.
Commit to a realistic period of time to meditate for. Less can often be more. Three minutes is the minimum amount to start with, and you can gradually increase to 5, 10, 15 or 20.
Choose your meditation spot – a place you know you won’t be disturbed and every time you look at it, you’re reminded that it’s time to meditate.
Find a comfortable position. We don’t meditate with our legs, we meditate with our minds, and we need a still body to have a still mind.
Last, and most importantly, be kind to yourself and have an open mind. Try different techniques and see what type of mind training most suits you, then stick to it.
I started meditation using the app Headspace and ended up spending time in Nepal, living with monks in the Himalayas, so don’t underestimate the value of digital content. Calm and Insight Timer also offer a great variety of teachers and styles of practice.
I also recommend trying meditation studios, Buddhist centres and retreats when you need the support of a teacher and community.
Bring your body and mind to the same space
I leave you with a straightforward technique to bring your body and mind to the same space by aligning your breaths with 4 words:
Breathe IN and silently say to yourself: I
Breathe OUT and silently say to yourself: AM
Breathe IN and silently say to yourself: HERE
Breathe OUT and silently say to yourself: NOW
Repeat for four rounds.
Stay present and be awesome.
Who is Natalia Bojanic?
Trained by the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute, Natalia Bojanic is a meditation instructor, leadership workshop host, and serial wellness entrepeneur - currently leading plant-based nutrition start-up, Form.